Eli has been bullied this year by this same kid. The kid curses at him, calls him stupid.
Eli has been reporting this kid to his teacher and assistant principal. His teacher does a good job of keeping the kid away from him in the classroom, but P.E. is a different story.
A couple of weeks ago, there was a knock on my classroom door. I opened it and found a very upset Eli. He had run out of P.E. The class had been divided into small groups, and Eli was on a team with the bully and one other boy. They had pushed him. They had cursed. Eli went to the teacher and asked to move to another group. He didn't explain why. The teacher just assumed that Eli didn't want to do the activity, so he told Eli no. Eli ran out.
Eli and I spoke to the assistant principal. The assistant principal explained to the teacher what was going on. It was all documented in the assistant principal's computer. Eli returned to class, and the bullying continued.
The gap between what Eli explains and what is really going on is huge. Even we didn't understand the full extent of his frustration. After listening to him talk about what was happening, Joe gave him a rule to follow: report it three times. After the third report in one day, if the kid is still messing with you, knock the hell out of him.
Well, it happened. This week, Eli's teacher contracted the plague, or maybe just the flu, but anyway, she was out all week. And the bully saw his chance. On Tuesday, he started in on Eli. Eli reported to the sub that the kid was messing with him. The sub told the kid to stop, and the bullying got worse. Eli went to the office and spoke to the assistant principal. The assistant principal called the bully down and spoke to him. They were both back in class, and surprise, surprise--the bully wasn't fazed by the A.P.'s little chat. He cursed at Eli again. For the last time, Eli told the substitute teacher. That had no effect. An hour later, I was sitting with Eli in front of the assistant principal. Eli had punched the bully three times. The bully didn't hit back. My sweet baby hit him in the arm, and his upper body strength is very poor, so the stupid jerk probably didn't even feel it. Eli very calmly looked at me and said, "I did what daddy said. I reported it three times and then I hit him!" Other children in the classroom confirmed Eli's story that the kid had been picking on him. The bully got after school detention. Eli got a day of ISS.
We are seriously considering homeschooling for the next three years.